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For Diri Djondjon Recipe, scroll down to bottom of page.
Introduction – You Can Be the Solution!
1: Carine Fabius - All Chapter Highlights
Chapter 1 - Man, Male, or Macho
1. Chapter 1 - Carine Fabius
Chapter 2 - Ask a Woman
1. Chapter 2 - Carine Fabius
Chapter 3 – Generalizations
1. Chapter 3 - Carine Fabius
Chapter 4 - Love
1. Chapter 4 - Carine Fabius
Chapter 5 - Getting to A Better Place
Discover practical ways to grow as a partner and a human being. Steps toward a more self-aware, healthier life await you.
Chapter 6 - Power
Reflect on how power shapes your relationships and choices. Use your strength for good — not to control, but to uplift.
Chapter 7 - How to Not Kill a Budding Relationship
Learn the common pitfalls that sabotage early connections. Avoid them and let your relationship bloom naturally.
Chapter 8 - Saving The Relationship
Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged with effort and honesty. Get tools to repair trust and reignite intimacy.
Chapter 9 - How to Deal with Abortion
Confront this challenging issue with compassion and respect. Support her choices, and listen without judgment.
Chapter 10 - Mommy Issues?
Unpack your past and its influence on your present relationships. Break unhealthy patterns rooted in childhood.
Chapter 11 - Rape
Understand the gravity of sexual violence and its impact. Be part of a world that holds perpetrators accountable and supports survivors.
Chapter 12 - Aging
Embrace the beauty and wisdom that come with growing older. Redefine what masculinity looks like at every stage of life.
Chapter 13 - Birthdays
Embrace the beauty and wisdom that come with growing older. Redefine what masculinity looks like at every stage of life.
Chapter 14 - How to Get Sex and /or a Life Partner
Learn to approach relationships and intimacy with honesty and respect. Shift your focus from conquest to genuine connection.
Chapter 15 - MeToo
Reflect on this powerful movement’s impact on society. Understand your role in fostering safer, more equitable spaces.
Chapter 16 - Patronizing
Recognize when your words and actions come off as condescending. Cultivate mutual respect and equality.
Chapter 17 - Shhh
Discover the value of listening more than you speak. Strengthen your relationships by making space for others’ truths.
Chapter 18 - Saving the Planet
Understand that real masculinity includes caring for the world around you. Be an active participant in creating a sustainable future.
Chapter19 - Do We Still Need to Kill the Elephants?
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Diri Djondjon Recipe
Ingredients
2 Cups of Dried Black Mushrooms (djondjon)
3 garlic cloves minced
2 tablespoons olive oil
1 small onion chopped
2 cups long-grain rice
2 teaspoons salt
1 tsp Ground cloves
1 (12-ounce) can lima beans (or green peas)
1 to 2 thyme sprigs
1 green Scotch bonnet pepper (optional, this is a very hot pepper!)
Step 1
In small pot, soak mushrooms in 4 cups water for 10 minutes.
Step 2
Boil mushrooms on low heat for 10 minutes.
Step 3
Strain the mushroom water into another container for later use. Discard mushrooms.
Step 4
In a large pot, sauté the garlic and onions on medium heat for 2 minutes.
Step 5
Add the rice and stir for 3-5 min.
Step 6
Next, add the mushroom water, salt, cloves and lima beans.
Step 7
Bring the water to a boil and reduce the heat (approximately 10-15 min).
Step 8
Stir in the rice, set the temperature to low.
Step 9
Add Scotch bonnet pepper and thyme.
Step 10
Cover the pot and steam the rice for 15 min.
Recipe courtesy of HaitianCooking.com
Where to find Djon Djon: Google "Haitian Djon Djon" & Etsy